When you approach someone, who has lost hope in life and only sees a dead-end to their misfortunes, the first instinct you have is to motivate them. This is a very kind thing to do, especially if they are your loved ones.
However, there are times when you do not want to motivate everyone who is in this situation, and that is understandable. You probably have your reasons, and these are:
They Never Listen
You always lend an ear and give advice that you know it will work because you’ve been there, but they are stubborn. The person chooses to stick with their stubborn ways even if they failed in the past. At some point, you will get tired of this and just leave them alone.
You just have to accept that it is like talking to a wall, and they will never listen to you.
You Have Your Own Stuff to Deal With
If you are in the middle of a crisis, and someone in the same state approaches you for motivation, it can be hard for you to know what to say. However, if you know that what you are doing is working, you can give them a little motivation to follow your example.
Even if you are not in the right place to give motivation, you can still contribute to what they are going through by empowering them to go on.
You Think Someone Else Should Motivate Them
Maybe because you lack the confidence or pride to inspire others because you think you have not achieved enough. The truth is, even if you do not have everything you want yet, you can motivate others.
Being self-determined and motivated already gives you the right to advise others. Not everyone wakes up every morning having the drive you have, which is very important to success.
As long as you are working towards your goal every day, you can motivate others with your actions.
You Might Give Them the Wrong Advice and be Blamed For it
If something works for you, it does not mean others will benefit from it too. You hesitate to give empowering words to a person because they might blame you if it goes downhill, or even take it against you.
This is something you do not have control over, and even if you have the best intentions, the person might react differently. Hence, you just choose not to say anything and let them be.
You can always tell them what you think, but make sure they know it is not their obligation to do the same.
Motivation Comes from Within
You know that no matter what you do if someone lacks motivation, they will not change. It needs to come from the person and nothing will get through them if they do not see what’s missing.
Having no motivation will only affect the person, and not you.
These are the reasons why you do not want to motivate people, and they are valid.
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